Seven Areas Every Woman Must Conquer
Seven Areas Every Woman Must Conquer
The Bible says the entrance of His word gives light and understanding to the simple. As the word is preached today, I believe you're going to receive understanding and light in areas of your life, just like I did and continue to do every single day.
It's time to stop going around the mountain. 2026 is the year we start going up and over these things. Anything in your life that is stopping you from going to the next level, from progressing, growing, or flourishing where God has placed you—that's a big deal. You need to get up and get over it.
1. Your Mind
This is the number one area that every woman has to conquer. Your mind wants to go a million miles a minute, everywhere but where it's supposed to be. You know, it may not be coming out of your mouth, but you're thinking it.
The Bible says, "As a man thinks in his heart, so is he." I put this as number one because this is the foundational area we must conquer.
To be honest, today as soon as I decided to do this broadcast, every thought from every direction started coming against my mind. This mountain in my life—fear, insecurity, whatever you want to call it—was really just a mountain I had built up in my mind. It was stopping me from sitting here and doing the thing I'm called to do.
There are things you're called to do. Great works you're called to be a part of. You can't let your mind convince you out of the things you are called to do.
2 Corinthians 10:5 says you have to take every thought captive to obey the word of Christ. Every thought—not just some, not just on certain days. Every single thought has to be taken captive to obey the word of God. Anything that does not line up with the word of God, you have to flush it out of your mind. Get it out of your space. Rebuke it. Cast it down.
I love what a man of God said: "Not every thought that flies over your head has to land and make a nest."
You have so much more control than you think. I hear women say, "I just can't. I just can't." No, you can. You have the ability. God has given you through the word of God the ability to speak a thing, decree a thing, declare a thing, and it shall be established.
You can cast down thoughts in your mind that you don't want. You don't have to have racing thoughts. You don't have to have plaguing things at night—dreams, fear of dying constantly plaguing your mind. That doesn't have to be the case. But it starts with you making the decision.
Philippians 4:6-7 says to be anxious for nothing. That is not a suggestion or recommendation—it is a command. Be anxious for nothing. And when you do that, the peace of God which surpasses all understanding will come and stand guard over your heart and mind.
You have to recognize that the battle going on in your mind—you have full control over. You have the ability to silence thoughts that you don't want, that you don't need, that are annoying to you. You have the ability to cast them down and take authority over them.
When you conquer the battle in your mind, everything about you begins to change.
As you think in your heart, so will you be. You have to get out of your head and start living out of your spirit. Your mind and body are not going to want to do what you know in your spirit you need to do.
There are things you probably don't want to do—a book you're supposed to write, a business you're supposed to launch. Or maybe you started and took a step back because you realized it's harder than you thought. Get out of your mind and start living out of your spirit.
Your spirit man aligns with the word of God. You can do all things through Christ who gives you strength. God hasn't given you a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind.
2. Your Emotions
This is a really big one for us women. God is not moved by emotions.
I remember time and time again crying out to the Lord, "God, why is this happening? Why is that not happening?" All emotional in my feelings. And God said, "I'm not going to do anything about it. I gave you the power to do something about it."
God is not moved by emotion. God is moved by faith, and faith comes by hearing the word of God.
You have to keep yourself in the word—the Bible says to meditate on the word of God day and night. You have to constantly keep yourself meditating on it, praying and speaking the word over your life.
My husband says the best voice of faith you can hear is your own—reading the word out loud to yourself, speaking it over yourself, commanding your mind and emotions to come into line with the word of God. That's your foundation. That's the only way your life won't feel up and down and all over the place.
You have to keep your emotions in check.
Proverbs 25:28: "Whoever has no rule over his own spirit is like a city broken down without walls."
If you can't keep your emotions in check, you're going to struggle. Anytime I've struggled or been frustrated, it's because my emotions were all out of whack. I was making decisions based on my emotions or allowing thought patterns to be built up based on my emotions, not on reality.
Proverbs 4:23: "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it springs the issues of life." You have to keep your heart. Guard your heart. Protect it. Don't just give it away.
The change has to start on the inside. The change had to start with me. When I wanted things to change, when I was frustrated with where life was going, the change had to start with me. It started in my mind, then I had to work on my emotions.
I had to start blocking down and casting down imaginations and things that the Bible says exalt themselves over the knowledge of the word of God.
We wonder why our generation is having all these issues with depression, anxiety, constant fear, panic attacks. They don't know how to cast down imaginations and things that would try to exalt themselves over the word of God in their life.
You can't make great impact if you yourself are not changed. You can't help other people if you're all messed up and can't keep your mind straight.
Thoughts come to everybody. My husband and I deal with thoughts daily. Every single day we have to cast down thoughts. The more you do it, the easier it gets. That feeling of anxiety tries to come up—maybe a debt, financial pressure, stepping into something you don't fully know. No, I'm not yielding to that. I'm keeping my mind and heart set on those things which are above, set on the word of God.
I refuse to have ups and downs in my life. If you just stick with the word, you're going to be okay.
Turn your phone off and just go sit and read your Bible, even if it's a struggle. You have so many tools available today—there are no excuses anymore to not be filled up with the word of God.
3. Consistency
It's so easy to start strong. You get an idea, get all zealous, and think, "This is it. This is the thing. It's going to shake the world." Then you get about three weeks in and it starts to lose its zeal.
The area of consistency is one every woman has to conquer because a lot of life is very mundane. It's not going to be fun every five seconds. It's not going to be a constant hit. We're so used to scrolling on social media, getting dopamine and happy feel-good emotions.
Not all of life is going to be like that. There are going to be moments where you're washing dishes, doing laundry, taking care of your kids, working your business. It's not going to be all glamour and glitter all the time.
But you have to keep the consistency because the consistent everyday steps you make are what keep you breaking through. People tend to give up way too soon.
My pastor said people want breakthrough on day ten and give up on day nine. Consistency every single day will keep you from doing that.
Let's say you feel called to write a book. It's not sitting down and pushing out the entire book in five hours. No—every day you do a little bit. One day you write the outline. The next day you write a bit of your intro. Then you draw a cover. Then you start looking into what it takes to get published. It's every day, step by step, little by little.
You have to be consistent every single day.
4. A Wandering Spirit
You have to conquer the area of having a wandering spirit. This is so vital.
A lot of times you can get caught up in the glamour and glitter, the new thing over here, the new thing over there. There's such power in being rooted somewhere—not your roots going out across multiple areas, but being rooted deeply.
When you allow yourself to have a wandering spirit, you're not rooted in anything. It's a new project every week, a new job every week, a new venture, new friends. You can't keep friends. You can't keep a job. You're going from one church to another.
People have a wandering spirit where when things start to lose their glitter and glamour, they begin to drift, wander, move on, and say, "Oh, I guess the Lord's just moving me on."
That in and of itself will destroy your growth as a Christian. When you grow, your roots go out instead of deep. When they grow out, it's easy for the enemy to come with an axe and chop at a root on the surface.
People get severed because they're so spread out everywhere. They don't even know the enemy's been chopping away at one of their roots. They're getting picked apart in one area, but because they're so everywhere, they don't even notice it.
You're everywhere instead of rooted down deep. You need to be rooted into one church with one pastor. That doesn't mean you can't visit special meetings as the Spirit leads. But it's not just bouncing around everywhere.
A lot of times the enemy doesn't have to get you off sinning. He just has to get you focused on all these other things instead of the thing God wants you to do.
If you're gifted and talented and you throw yourself out there saying, "Let me do this, let me do that," you will be used. That's just reality, and you are responsible for it.
Instead of trying to help everything and everyone, get rooted down deep where God has called you to be.
When I first started the ministry, I wanted my hand in every department—media, finance, everything. Then I got frustrated because I felt like I was managing ten plates with no time to spend with the Lord.
Noah asked me, "Why are you doing it?" I said, "Because it's the thing I'm supposed to do." He said, "Is it?" I realized I'd done this to myself. I was trying to operate at a level we weren't even at.
When I dropped about half of that and delegated, the ministry started to grow.
There is such power in being in the one thing God's called you to do instead of trying to manage all the things He never called you to do.
Get rooted somewhere down deep, not out wide.
If you're always chasing the next thing, you are not cultivating the current thing.
Growth happens when roots go deep, not wide. God works through long obedience in the same direction. You cannot grow weary in doing good.
5. Worry and Anxiety
Carrying tomorrow's weight with today's strength. Everybody's given 24 hours. Don't try to focus on what's happening tomorrow. That's how you stress out and crash out.
1 Peter 5:7: "Cast all your anxieties on Him because He cares for you." This is a command.
Worry and anxiety will drain every part of your life—mentally, physically, spiritually. It will drain your friendships, your workplace. There is nothing that comes out of worry and anxiety that you want.
How do you conquer it? By keeping yourself rooted and planted in the word of God, the house of God, planted around people who are not anxious. I don't hang around worriers or fretful people because whatever you're around is going to rub off on you.
You have to let the worry go. You have to let the anxiety go. Cast your cares upon the Lord because He cares for you.
No matter what you're going through, the word of God is the great equalizer. The word of God works if you work it.
When Noah and I first started the ministry, there were times we thought it was the end. There were times I was crashing out thinking, "We don't have the money."
Thank God for Noah. He's such a man of faith. He'd say, "Babe, it's fine. The Lord's got it."
I had to learn how to cast those anxieties and cares upon the Lord. Guess what? Every single time the Lord came through. Every single time the Lord didn't fail us. Every single time an abundance came in, an overflow came in.
People keep going around this mountain of worry and anxiety because they don't know how to just rest, be at peace, allow the Lord to take care of you.
If you've done everything He's told you to do, if you've done everything in the natural you know you're supposed to do, wait upon the Lord and He will renew your strength and take care of you.
6. Comparison
Comparison is the thief of joy.
When you're always looking at somebody else's thing—what they're doing, what they look like, what they sound like—you eventually start to veer off course from the thing you're supposed to be doing.
Keep yourself focused on the thing God has called you to, the assignment He has you in.
The Bible says mind your own business, not everybody else's.
Don't be overspiritual thinking, "They need to pray more. They need to worship more." Focus on you. Mind your own business.
My husband said, "You don't want to be the person that steps in between God trying to teach somebody a lesson or bring somebody up over a mountain."
Sometimes people do stupid things and have to reap stupid consequences. You don't want to step in and throw it off. They're just about to go over the mountain, and you put yourself right in the middle of it. Now they have to go back around it again.
2 Corinthians 10:12: "When they measure themselves by themselves, they lack wisdom."
7. Fear of Failure
God has not given us a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind.
Obedience matters more than outcomes. And your obedience will always produce a great outcome.
To be honest, this broadcast is not my favorite thing to do. I love talking to you all, but I don't like doing it while looking at myself on camera. But I am further now than I was at the start. I'm a little bit more over myself.
Obedience is not always comfortable. In fact, I don't think any obedience the Lord has asked me to do was comfortable. If you're comfortable, check yourself. Am I even doing the thing God has called me to do? Because if you're not being stretched, if you're not growing, something's wrong.
It's very easy to be avoidant. I was the queen of avoidance. I wouldn't do the broadcast, but I'd make cool social media posts, put Noah's messages out in a nice email—do all the things but the thing God wanted me to do.
Don't do that because you're just going to keep going around the mountain again and again.
Don't be afraid to move forward. If God asks you to move forward, it's always because He has your best in mind.
You have to do what God tells you to do when He tells you to do it, as He tells you to do it, how He tells you to do it. That is true obedience.
Delayed obedience is disobedience. Half obedience is disobedience. Partial obedience is still disobedience.
Obey the Lord.
8. Perfectionism and Criticism
The biggest one I had to deal with recently: perfectionism and criticism.
Sometimes you can be critical outwardly toward other people—just stop it. Stop being critical of other people.
Other times you can be critical of yourself. Stop it. Stop being critical of yourself.
God made you. You're made in His image. There's a great call on your life. Stop being critical of yourself. Understand you're a work in progress. You are saved, you are sanctified. The Bible says you are renewed day by day. His mercies are new every morning.
Don't be so hard on yourself. If you made a mistake yesterday, allow yourself five minutes to process it, then get over it.
The Bible says to think on those things that are good, pure, of good report, lovely. Think on the word of God.
Stop criticizing yourself. Stop critiquing everything about yourself. Get all of that, flush it, get it out of your life.
One thing to understand: if people are critical of you, it's because they're very critical of themselves. Don't become that. Don't sit around critiquing everybody else.
Perfectionism
God cannot work with a perfectionist because a perfectionist says, "Until it is to my standard, my approval, I'm not going to do it."
I confused for a long time what excellence was and what perfectionism was.
Old Chloe would have said, "I'm not doing this broadcast because that light is glaring." But I decided I'm not going to be a perfectionist. I'm going to be the person that does the thing, even if it makes me cringe the first time.
Your first videos are not going to look like the videos going forward. But if you're constantly thinking perfection, perfection, you're never going to progress. You're just going to go around the mountain over and over again.
When we first started the ministry, I was obsessed with looking perfect on the outside because there was such a high standard from where we came from. Now I look back and think, "That was so stupid. Why was I so focused on what other people's expectations were?"
Don't be such a perfectionist that you don't have a beautiful story of growth. There should be that small beginning. The Bible says there's something beautiful in the small beginning. But don't allow fear to cause you to hide the beautiful thing that God finds delight in.
God delights to see the work begin. Allow the work to be shown. Allow the not-so-great graphics to come out. Just go with it. Just do the thing and figure it out as you go.
Then look back and say, "Wow, there's such a big difference from when I first started to now."
Allow yourself to find joy in the beginning, joy in the process, joy in the not-so-great parts.
When we first started and had five people in the church, we felt like failures. I was such a perfectionist, I didn't want to show our five or six people. Now I look back—we're sitting at 25 to 30 people—and I wish we had shown the five people we had. Some of those services were the best services ever, so powerful. But because of fear, I didn't allow myself to document the beautiful beginning.
God delights in your beginning. You should too.
Toward the end of 2025, we decided we're going to be Ambassador Global to the max. We're going all the way in on being the house that God wants it to be, not a mirror or reflection of somebody else's vision.
It needs to be the same with you. Don't write a book because your friend wrote a book. Write a book because God told you to and He put this burning passion inside you.
Don't start a business because you need money. Do it because there's a burning passion and the Lord has spoken to you to do it.
It may be ugly in the beginning, but if you keep going and you keep that thread of consistency, it's going to be beautiful.
9. Small Thinking
Believing what's in your hands now is too small to matter.
That is how you stop up progress. You'll never grow further than what's in your hands right now. If you don't use what's in your hands, if you're not faithful with the little bit God entrusted you with, you won't grow.
Nobody just wakes up a billionaire. You don't come out with multi-million dollar businesses. It doesn't happen.
You have to get rid of small thinking. Let it go. Remove it.
You know what enlarges your thinking? The word of God.
You begin to see that you are far more valuable than the clothes you wear, the place you come from, the color of your skin. The word of God is the great equalizer.
You need healing? It's there. You need prosperity? It's there. You need your mind to be clear? It's there.
The word of God enlarges your capacity to see things.
When you serve a God who owns the cattle on a thousand hills and whose streets are paved with gold, when you begin to know Him, know His character, how meticulous and detailed He is, it enlarges the way you think.
You're in this world but not of this world. I live here, but my sustenance, my abilities, my resources are not from here. I have a whole account in heaven that I have access to by my words and by my faith.
The Widow at Zarephath (1 Kings 17)
Elijah goes to her. She and her son are about to die. They don't have anything, but she had a little. And with that little, God made a lot.
The Bible says if you're faithful with a little, you'll be ruler over much. There are people who stay in the rat race, in the little bit they have. They just keep paying their bills. There's never anything more because their thinking is small.
But there's so much more to life than just paying your bills paycheck to paycheck.
We chose to be faithful with the little bit God had entrusted us with. And as you're faithful, He makes you ruler over much.
It's not "when I have enough." It's "with what I have, I will honor the Lord and max it out as best as I can."
When we first started our broadcast, we ordered gear off Temu and Amazon. I had a camera from my wedding photography business that I still owed money on. We made the most out of what we had and figured it out as we went.
It was such a small beginning. People said, "Oh my gosh, your studio looks so good." And I was thinking, "Lighting makes such a big difference." We had this little $5 thing from Temu and this little IKEA lamp that kept falling over and got so hot I was convinced it was going to burn down the house. But we made it work.
We did what we could with the little that was in our hand.
Stop being a perfectionist. Just go for it. Stop being critical.
Here's one of the greatest revelations I got: nobody cares. People are so focused on themselves. If you do or don't do something, they're not going to notice.
Only you and the Lord are going to know if you obeyed Him.
But you know what people do notice? When you start to do the thing God's put the grace on your life for—the calling, the assignment.
I don't get any engagement on my Instagram. I post a picture of me and my kid—cute, but not much. As soon as I started putting blogs out, broadcasts, vlogs, suddenly people I didn't even think followed me were seeing it.
It's because I stepped into the assignment God placed on my life after I got over what I thought people thought about me. But the reality is nobody was thinking about me.
Understand that. But it is noticeable when the Lord begins to promote and elevate you and there's a grace on your life.
Make a System for This Year
Don't just let this year be whatever it'll be. That's how people end up 80 years old wondering what happened.
When the Lord speaks to you or impresses upon you that there's something for you to do, you need to take steps in that direction. The Lord is not going to do it for you.
You have to make a system, make a plan. Write the vision, make it plain. Write it down, then take small steps.
I break my year down into quarters. If it's a big project, I break it into four quarters. If it's something that'll take one quarter, I put it there. If I don't accomplish it, I don't get to move on to quarter two. I have to do the first quarter because I don't want to dishonor the Lord and not take His word seriously.
Ask yourself: Are you treasuring and valuing when the Lord speaks to you?
He's telling you to do something because He knows that if you would just dig in and go for it, not only would His will be accomplished here on earth, but you would feel fulfilled as well.
You have to make a plan and a system for this year. Be intentional.
Lastly,
If you overcome these areas—if you can overcome the battlefield of your mind, if you can manage your emotions, if you can be consistent, if you can be rooted instead of wandering, if you can push back worry and anxiety, if you can stop comparing, if you can conquer fear of failure, if you can stop being a perfectionist and critical, if you can eliminate small thinking—there is absolutely nothing the enemy can throw your way.
That covers every area of your life. There is nothing the enemy will be able to stop you with.
Be established. Be rooted in the word of God. It's going to be good. It's going to be a really, really good year.
I feel it so strongly—for anybody wanting the Lord to establish them, wanting to make the most of this year—it is going to be your best year yet.
Reflection Questions
Mind Battlefield: What specific thoughts keep "flying over your head" that you've been allowing to "land and make a nest"? What scripture can you use to take those thoughts captive this week?
Emotional Management: In what areas of your life are you making decisions based on emotions rather than the word of God? How can you begin to "cast your cares" on the Lord instead of carrying them yourself?
Consistency Check: What is one thing you started with zeal but didn't finish because it lost its "glamour and glitter"? What would it look like to pick that back up with consistent, daily action?
Wandering Spirit: Are you rooted deeply in one place, or are your roots spread wide across many things? What relationships, commitments, or projects do you need to let go of to root down deeper where God has called you?
Worry and Anxiety: When have you seen God come through when you chose faith over worry? What current situation are you trying to control instead of casting on Him?
Comparison Trap: Whose "lane" have you been looking at instead of staying focused on your own assignment? What would change if you truly believed your calling is unique and incomparable?
Fear of Failure: What is one thing God has asked you to do that you've been avoiding because you're afraid it won't be perfect or you'll fail? What would obedience look like this week?
Perfectionism: What project, idea, or calling have you been holding back because it's "not ready yet" or "not good enough"? What would it look like to document your "beautiful beginning" instead of hiding it?
Small Thinking: What "little" do you have in your hands right now that you've been dismissing as too small to matter? How can you be faithful with that little this week?
Your System: What specific, practical system will you put in place this week to conquer one of these seven areas? How will you break down your goals into quarterly action steps?
Self-Reflection: Which of these seven areas resonated most strongly with you? Why? What is God highlighting for you to work on first?
Accountability: Who can you share this with who will hold you accountable to making the changes you know you need to make?